Wood Nymph Seeks Centaur

Wood Nymph Seeks Centaur – A Mythological Dating Guide

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Wood Nymph Seeks Centaur is actually less a dating guide since it does not tell you where to find dates or how to behave on date as it is a quiz book to find the type of Mythological Creature you are and the best “type” of Mythological Creature you are suited to for a relationship.

The way she describes things makes the book easy to read and very entertaining.  For instance she describes her experience of being a first time online dater as “feeling like I had wandered into a dark thicket and lost my way. I was suddenly in a foreign, twisted, tangled forest without a map or a guidebook to help me understand all the new creatures that surrounded me. “.  This is a description I totally get I feel the same every time I venture into a new chapter of my dating life.

So she developed her survival strategy which was to come up with a system of classifying people herself included into what she knows best “Mythological Creatures”.  From that point she found it easy to work out best, worst and possibly might work types to date based on her classifications system.

The book is easy to navigate it starts out with “personality type descriptions” and from there you then look up what Mythological creature you are based on your personality type and then you go look up how your mythological creature interacts with others.

I’ll admit I was sceptical at first but I did what the instructions said and at first I swung between the personality type of “Urban Elf” and “Banshee” till I read the full description of both and I am 110% a Banshee.  Ironically Banshee best match is a Werewolf, which is hilarious because I’ve always said I like dog better then people and lets face it a Werewolf is just a big dog.

She does state in the book that you might find despite the fact your gender is female your mythological creature type might be male and vice versa.  She also has sections on “mixers” people who don’t neatly fit into one mythological creature type but are say a combo of “Fairy/Vampire” which she calls Night Fairies.  The book caters for all types as it has Male-Female, Male-Male and Female-Female matching sections and can be used both for dating or any other area of your life where you are going to be letting someone get close to you (e.g. friendship, business partner).

What the book is not going to tell you is where to find your ideal partner although when you read the descriptions of the typical activities enjoyed by this type of mythological creature in the full type descriptions you’ll find good hints as to where to go hunting.  For example you are likely to find “Urban Elves” male or female in their favourite coffee shop watching people and blogging on their laptops or Vampires are unlikely to be found at the beach unless it’s after dark and they are watching the moon rise.

Personally as someone who grew up loving fair tails and Roman/Greek myths I love this book and it really does make it less terrifying trying to work out if the person your interested in is likely to be a good match for you because it’s suddenly fun trying to work out which Mythological Creature your prospective partner is.

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RUEA

RUEA or R U Emotionally Available

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This book should be called “The HERE & NOW – are you in it?” because effectively that is what the entire book asks in every single chapter.  The book up to page 79 is a series of short chapters that basically ask if you are living in Dreamland, Utopia, Fantasy Land, The Past or any other place in relationship world that is not right here right now reality.  If you are anywhere other than right here right now reality then you’re not emotionally ready or equipped to handle a new relationship.

A big part of Emotional Availability is apparently transcending from normal human to the evolved species that has connected with it’s EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Apparently Emotional Intelligence is reach if you can answer yes to all of the following:

  • Have a clear understanding of who you are
  • Be able to understand and manage yourself and your emotions
  • Be able to self-reflect
  • Think outside your own reality and have empathy and compassion for others
  • Be able to work through difficult issues in relationships
  • communicate your feelings honestly and openly
  • Be able to listen, comprehend and absorb another persons words
  • be intuitively of another persons emotional needs

Personally I would have called that a checklist for being an ADULT but then again I’ve been on dates where none of the above apply so guess they have a point.  I still don’t see how ticking off all of the above is going to help get me Mr Right unless I present him with the checklist and if he ticks all the boxes then he’s perfect right……..

On the topic of actually finding Mr Right the authors unfortunately peddle the same shit everyone else says, which is basically “get out there and join things and find people to date”.  Join groups, go on blind dates, go online, find a matchmaker, never say no to an invitation for anything and somehow if you’re Emotionally Available he will magically appear and it’ll all be sunshine and roses.  Going to admit this section of the book had me rolling my eyes and thinking oh yeah right and I can shit rainbows because I’ve been there done that I tick all the above boxes for Emotional Intelligence and guess what I’m still single!!!!!

I did have to smile on page 80 when the authors say

“People talk all the time about how much time/effort/money they’ve invested in their education/home/job/hobbies but how often do you hear people talk about how much they’ve invested in their emotional intelligence.  It’s hard to imagine being at a party chatting to someone and them telling you how much they’ve invested in their self improvement like listening skills”.

I have actually heard that conversation while I was in LA last year,  I was eves dropping on the table next to me who were having a dinner party conversation.   One girl was saying something like “it’s not just how you look in this industry it’s about how you express yourself I’ve been taking classes in how to connect more with my audience” I’m not sure how well the classes where going as she totally missed the bored out of my brain expression on the face of the guy she was talking to.

The funnest thing about this book was the art work in it some of which didn’t exactly correspond to the written detail in the chapter it was attached to and in some cases it got the point across far better than the written words.

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Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award

Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award

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Very unexpectedly I’ve been nominated for the Sisterhood of the World Blogger’s Award by desleyjane author of Musings of a Frequent Flying Scientist a blog I highly recommend anyone into Photography goes and visits not only for her amazing photographs but also for her fun commentary and occasional notes on Scientific Experiments she sometimes does.

There are apparently rules to this award which I’ve scrupulously studied mainly to see which of them I can get away with bending (just a little)

So here are the RULES!

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you & link back to their site.  Thanks you desleyjane author of Musings of a Frequent Flying Scientist 
  • Put the award logo on your blog. – Done i
  • Answer the ten questions sent to you. Done 
  • Make up ten new questions for your nominees to answer. Done see final section
  • Nominate seven bloggers who you feel deserve the award. Done 

 And here are my questions from desleyjane:

1. What is your morning routine after waking up?

Alh I”m such a technology geek that literally the first thing I do every mooring is check my phone for e-mails and messages then I go pee (doesn’t every girl pee ASAP in the morning).  My next step is to check my Facebook and Twitter Feeds to see what the international chunks of my family/friends have gotten up to or what disaster has happend while I’ve restlessly been getting my beauty sleep.

Once I’m dressed my dogs will have heard me moving around if they weren’t already in my room they will magically appear out of nowhere and we have cuddles and they follow me around while I take my medication. After I’m medicated I head downstairs to mum/dads place in search of hot coffee and food (I haven’t really lived in my house as I’ve been working FIFO so I’m still moving into my house and there is no food in my cupboards).  Once I have coffee I pick whatever breakfast cereal looks good and have that for breakfast, if I’m dead lucky mum will have cooked a hot breakfast and mine will be in the oven staying warm.

Right now my routine post breakfast is clean teeth and pick project to work on for the day be it job hunting, reading, blogging, unpacking-sorting and then I stick or attempted to stick to doing that job for the day.  However if I was working post breakfast would be clean teeth, put cami paint on (AKA Make-Up), get lunch out of fridge/freezer, make sure I have all the normal shit in my bag and head off to work.

2. If you could turn up at the airport and go anywhere in the world for free, where would go and why?

Can I have a multiple stops ticket?  Going with the multi stop ticket, first would be Singapore to visit big sis and her boys. Next would be London to visit my lil sis and spend more time exploring UK-Irland.  Then i would jump a flight to NYC because I only got to spend 4 days there in November 2014 and I want to go back.  Expanding this to I either have a fabulous job that lets me roam around the world working or I have an endless supply of cash I’d bounce around the USA-Canada going to all the places I didn’t see last time or want to redo again finishing up in LA.  From LA I would head home to Brisbane because they have direct flights which is only about 20 hours as opposed to my 26 hour trip from London-Dubai-Brisbane last year.

3. Apple or Samsung?

Oh dear confession time.  I used to be a Samsung geek girl to my bones and I hated Apple.  Then consecutive Samsung phones developed “issues” and I had to borrow my then housemates Apple iPhone for a couple of days while Optus argued with Samsung as to if they or Samsung had to deal with my phones issues.  Now I’m an Apple all the way kind of girl, I should cringe as I say this but I own 2 iPhones, iPad Air and my MacBook Air.  The fact my dad moved my MacBook Air today and I couldn’t find it to do this blog, watch movies, live my virtual life created a moment in which I had a total meltdown and rang him frothing at the mouth and ranting about not being able to find my precious AirBook and demanding to know what he’d done to it and why was he punishing me this way – I did say it was a melt down.

4. Tell me about something that made you really happy recently?

Talking to my best friend on the phone this morning and realising I’m not the only one having a case of February Blues.  This prompted me to go out to lunch and then go for a walk on the beach to come home and find a package from my lil sis in London on my doorstep with stuff I’d left at her place and a packed of Angel Oracle cards she thought I might like.  All of this made what hasn’t exactly been a good day in the middle of a crap week seem a lot better and it all made me smile.

5. What did you have for dinner tonight?

I haven’t had dinner yet but I’m seriously considering going around to the local bakery and buying one of the display birthday cakes which is basically sugar, cream, flour and food colouring with no nutritional value at all and eating a large slice of it with fresh brewed coffee.  Like I said February blues……..

6. What is your favourite movie and what do you love about it?

Casablanca – it doesn’t have a Hollywood happily ever after ending and considering it was made before technology could help make a film look better the lighting is amazing.  Seriously rematch it or watch it if you’ve never seen it and see how well they do mood scenes just with lighting alone.

7. What’s your favourite thing about blogging?

It lets me write and the blogging community has so far been extremely nice.

My Surviving Cookie Cutter Dating was kicked off because all my girlfriends and some guy friends would send my bad date e-mails on to other friends who where having dating issues so I decided to share my wealth of knowledge and experience simply so other singles out there holding out for their Mr Right but being pressured into settling for Mr Oh Ok He’ll Do know they are not alone in their “all my friends are attached or married what’s wrong with me” grief.

As for the Cutting Cookies Solo Girls Travel Guide that was kicked off so my friends-family could follow my 6 week trip through the USA-UK and I found it helped me keep calm while planning it but also to de-stress by writing about the good, bad and evil squirrels.  One of the biggest things about solo travel is there is just you so little things can become big issues and stress you out but if you’re blogging about it suddenly it’s funny stressful not sit in the corner sobbing my holiday is ruined stressful.

8. When was the last time you laughed out loud?

Last night when I got nominated for this award I laughed out loud and woke my dog Nano up and this was the not happy why did you wake me up look I got

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9. If you and I were to meet for a coffee, what would you most like to talk about?

Your photography, your dog Miss G, your job which frankly sounds fascinating and I’m sure from there we would find other things to talk about.

10. Do you have a catchphrase? Or something that you say a lot?

Cool bananas – I’m well aware of the fact I say it but somehow I just can’t get my brain to control my mouth and stop it coming out  and it sounds so unprofessional when I say it at work.

Nominate seven bloggers who you feel deserve the award

  1. Evil Genius Mum because she’s family, she got me started on wordpress and her musings about her ever growing brewed of sprawlings is vastly entertaining to read.  Plus this is a virtual ass kick to get her blogging again.
  2. With Her Nose Stuck In A Book  she reads, reviews and blogs about books in a way that is funny and entertaining.  I’m also just impressed with the total amount of books she can read in what seems like no time at all.  Plus she manages to find really odd ball shops that have presents book lovers want to be given for their birthdays, x-mass, solstice or just because.
  3. Brittany from Boston – I only recently found this blog and really wish I had of been reading it before I went to Boston in Oct 2014.  However I’m now determined to go back, stay in a brownstone as she suggests and do the 12 things on her Boston List because i really want to see Boston the way she does not through the jaded eyes of someone who got stuck in a hotel where the bathroom door handle came off in my hand.
  4. Single Dating Diva – Shout out to another blogger covering the world of dating and being single.  Occasionally I agree with her on topics and occasionally I find myself rolling me eyes and snorting as I say rude words, never the less her blogs are always entertaining and I’m curious to see what she’ll have to say about Valentines Day
  5. The Girl Next Door Is Black – I stumbled across this blog while I was in San Francisco, actually I over heard a guy at my fav coin laundry raving about it to the guy he was having breakfast with (the laundry is also a cafe) and decided to check it out and I’m glad I did.  I don’t think I’ve ever read any of her blog posts without smiling and laughing and often going OMG I’m not the only one.
  6. Tea & Giggles – I enjoy the way this blog is written and since I’m also in the process of putting my Ancestry Visas for the UK together I find her blogs both entertaining and informative.  I can’t wait to read about her move to the UK.
  7. Transitions – ok this is where I am probably bending the rules since they award is “sisterhood” but nowhere in the rules did it say my nominated bloggers had to be female so meet Steve Rose a PhD candidate in sociology at Queen’s University, currently writing a dissertation on suicidal ideation among Canadian military veterans returning from Afghanistan.
  • Ok so why nominate Steve – for those who really don’t know me well and let’s face it that’s almost everyone reading this you might not be aware that I’m a life long suffer of Depression.  So far I’ve been reasonably lucky and only had one very bad stretch where after ending up in the emergency ward for an accidental overdoes of pain killers I spend 2 years on anti depressants and counselling which allowed me to very slowly rebuild my by that stage shatter life.  I also spent a very huge chunk of my career working in Defence and still have people I consider family serving in the military so I’ve seen up close and personal what PTSD can do to someone.
  • Steve’s blog post aren’t normally light hearted, often not funny and sometimes down right painful to read but he is opening up discussion on the fact that mental health issues shouldn’t be a stigma and if we want to prevent more suicides open forums of discussion need to happen.  I’m lucky for me the stigma of Depression never stuck mostly thanks to a very strong support network of family & friends but as I said to Steve recently there are times I feel like I’m speaking a different language even when discussing Depression with professionals in the field of mental health.  My brain is more like Miss Havisham house in Charles Dickens Great Expectations a dimly light and slowly festering place or cobwebs and dark corners and those around me are Pollyanna’s – every problem has a silver lining you just need to find it,  so as much as they love me and want to help they just don’t get what Depression can do to your mind or emotions.

On a lighter note tag you are it and your 10 questions are below:

  1. What’s the story behind the name of your blog?
  2. Why did you start blogging?
  3. If you could go back in time and change something in your past would you and why?
  4. If you had to spend 6 weeks in medical isolation at home what books, movies or TV shows would you read/watch?
  5. What’s your favourite type of weather and why?
  6. If you had unlimited resources to travel where would you go?
  7. When you pack to go away for longer than a week how many pairs of jeans do you pack and why?
  8. What is the best or worst date you’ve ever been on?
  9. What is your favourite Holiday of the year?
  10. On a bad day what do you do to make yourself feel better?

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