Since I last posted I’ve been a little slack with keeping up with my reading and what not but between doing some skills upgrade training for work and getting a flair up of my Rheumatoid Arthritis under control I’ve been busy, sore and tired. However just for the fun of it I did decide to have a look at a couple of new “Relationship Apps” that came up on my phone.
This isn’t actually a review of the two apps I played on but more a commentary on a consistent things people do on online dating sites that personally drive me bat shit crazy.
The first app was Uniform Dating which looking at my phone I can’t find the app so maybe I was on a web site. Apparently I must have at some point in time been registered on this site because if you have a pre-existing e-mail listed on their database it won’t let you create a new profile or get access to your previous one. However if you spell your e-mail address wrong e.g. @gmial.com on registration and then contact them with an “ops I spelt my e-mail address wrong” message the system will let you create a profile and they’ll fix it without giving you a lecture about the e-mail address already being registered on their site. From a security view point I actually found the fact that the IT Helpdesk didn’t check if the e-mail address was on their block list for previously existing profile a little odd as it evidently breaches their own internal security policy.
The second app was called “Tagged” the two things that drove me nuts about this app was you can NOT delete your account from the app you have to log into the full web site and then jump through hoops to get your account deleted. The second thing was that from the App I could not find a way to lock my account to people in Australia only for viewing my profile. Oh and on my “Searching For Preferences” area the Age Range kept resetting its self to be 18 – 99 no matter how many times I changed it to 27-47 and saved it.
There are 3 things that drive me bat shit crazy with people on online dating sites and not just the ones above these 3 things have cropped up on every site I’ve ever been on, which can all be listed as “Get Real”
1. Not Reading My Profile: Any dating profile I fill out I am incredibly honest about the fact that I can NOT have children because for some people this is a deal breaker. I’ve seen enough guys go gooey over babies and suddenly decided they want to be dads to know that it’s not just women who’s biological clock can start to tick so if I meet someone who desperately want’s to be a dad then me being sterile thanks to Cancer in my early 30s could be a deal breaker on what they are looking for. So when someone contacts me with some crap about loving my profile and wanting to be in my life as I’m so what they are looking for and they want to settle down and have babies with me I know full well they have not bothered to read my profile. You would be surprised how often this happens and how fast they get shitty when I point out that they can’t have read my profile if they want to have babies with me.
2. Request to Contact them on some other app: I have yet to be on a site and not have someone say to me in the first 2 mins of a conversation that they are never really on this app why don’t we hook up via “wat’s app”, “Skype”, “e-mail”, “kik app”, “Facebook messenger” or “mobile phone”. Nah not going to happen the main point of being on a dating app is to give me a level or control and protection from crazy, losers or scammers. I’ve had several guys get all nark and try bullying me into giving them details to contact them via one of the above listed methods when I point out that I don’t know them well enough to give them those type of details. So my new method is to point out that they really don’t want that because well they don’t know how truly crazy I am because right now I seem really nice but if they could bring my x-partners back from the dead they’d find out I’m really scary when I’m off my meds. Some of them find it amusing some just block me but it does get the point across that for all they know I could be a scammer.
3. Realistic Expectations of Dating: I’ve lost count of the number of people (boys and girls) who have said “you seem so funny/nice/awesome/quirky we should meet up for a date” and they live in places like USA, UK, Russia, Canada and so on. When I politely point out that to go on a physical date with me it would take something like 36 hours of flying, 3 or more flight changes and cost about $2000 or more just to be in the same location before a date could happen. When I suggest that if they are genuinely interested in finding someone to date and form a relationship with perhaps looking in their town, state, country or region of earth might be a good idea they get upset with me. But here is the thing if you really really really want to find “my perfect partner” then don’t search for someone on the other side of the planet because you are about as likely to find them as you are to magically start farting rainbows that smell nice.